Meet The Pastor's Wife

“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…” 1 Timothy 3:2 This morning, I came across the news that an LCMS pastor in Missouri, not only a pastor, but a district president, was arrested and investigated by the FBI for child pornography production and abuse. Now, I normally keep my politics pretty close to my chest. In fact, I normally don’t care much for politics or anything of that natu

I’m currently sitting at a coffee shop, nursing awful period cramps and a peppermint cold brew, on the heels of an ultrasound. Not for a baby. For infertility. And if one more person at my church says, “When’s the next one coming?!” I’m moving to Canada. It’s going to happen. I should get my passport renewed. Add to to-do list. Yes, I have two kids. Yes, I’m very, very thankful for them. Yes, secondary infertility still hurts like hell. Do not assume anything about anyone’s f

Any normal person in church (really, in any social situation) is going to have favorites. Including the pastor's wife.

My husband is my pastor. He's also my husband. The person who runs most of the goings-on of my church is my husband. The person who delivers most sermons I hear on Sundays is my husband. The person who heads up meetings that make major church decisions is my husband. The one leading most of the Bible studies I have attended lately is...you guessed it, my husband. Sometimes I get really frustrated with my church. I get mad about the way something is run, or how an event went,

Pastors and their families need some important boundaries with their church.

Rule number one: DO NOT ENGAGE. Hi, I’m Emily. I’m a pastor’s wife. Chances are that if you’re reading this, you’re about to be one, too. Welcome to the club. The first year after Call Day is a wild one. You’ll probably meet some lifelong friends and get to explore a new area, but this year is also critical to set up your entire life as a pastor’s family. (No pressure.) This first year can be make or break. Make bad habits now, and it’s really hard to reverse them. Don’t worr